
Truth. As parents I think we often take this concept lightly. We want to be truthful to our children and others, but we can bend the truth when it suits our purposes. One of our family values in honesty. But I have to admit in some things we bend the truth a little. For instance, take Santa. However some may feel about the legend of Santa, I have always felt that it was one of the magical parts of Christmas. It keeps the wonder and innocence in the season for children. Over the course of the past year, our 11 year old came to terms with Santa not being real. It was a belief she came to on her own and we supported her in it and even applauded her maturity. At the time, little did I know that this year would mark the end of Santa in our household.
After losing her first tooth, Abby became very distraught about the tooth fairy. She would cry while declaring "I don't want a stranger coming in my room while I'm asleep." So needless to say, eventually we told her the truth about the tooth fairy. I guess I shouldn't have been surprised that as I tucked her in on Christmas Eve she became upset about Santa having access to our home when we were all asleep. She had anxiety that he might come in her room or that she might accidentally wake up while he was at our house and get into some kind of trouble. After reassuring her that Santa was kind, loved children, and certainly would not be mad at her for waking up, she was able to calm down and go to sleep. HOWEVER, within the first three hours of being asleep, Abby woke up two more times with worries and a stomach ache. Finally the during the second of these times, as I tried to calm her, she began feeling sick to her stomach and was literally shaking with fear! It broke my heart and I didn't even hesitate to tell her the truth about Santa.
Of course, after doing so, I felt an incredible amount of let down. I was also worried that Abby would be hurt, or disappointed, or . . . I mean how does one respond when a long held childhood belief comes crashing down around them? I looked down at Abby and asked her how she felt. She was all smiles and said she was happy to know. I asked if she would still be excited about Christmas and she exclaimed, "Yes! I still get presents!" What a relief. I also felt better knowing that I was able to give my baby the gift of security and calmness. Abby got a restful night's sleep and we had a great Christmas.
In John 8: 31-32, the Bible says, "If you hold to my teaching, you are really my disciples. 32Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free." There are so many areas where I long for truth in my life. How comforting to know that there is an answer. If I hold to the teachings of Christ and live as His disciple. I will know the truth and be set free! That is my wish for myself and all of those I know and love this new year. Know the truth . . . and be set free!
After losing her first tooth, Abby became very distraught about the tooth fairy. She would cry while declaring "I don't want a stranger coming in my room while I'm asleep." So needless to say, eventually we told her the truth about the tooth fairy. I guess I shouldn't have been surprised that as I tucked her in on Christmas Eve she became upset about Santa having access to our home when we were all asleep. She had anxiety that he might come in her room or that she might accidentally wake up while he was at our house and get into some kind of trouble. After reassuring her that Santa was kind, loved children, and certainly would not be mad at her for waking up, she was able to calm down and go to sleep. HOWEVER, within the first three hours of being asleep, Abby woke up two more times with worries and a stomach ache. Finally the during the second of these times, as I tried to calm her, she began feeling sick to her stomach and was literally shaking with fear! It broke my heart and I didn't even hesitate to tell her the truth about Santa.
Of course, after doing so, I felt an incredible amount of let down. I was also worried that Abby would be hurt, or disappointed, or . . . I mean how does one respond when a long held childhood belief comes crashing down around them? I looked down at Abby and asked her how she felt. She was all smiles and said she was happy to know. I asked if she would still be excited about Christmas and she exclaimed, "Yes! I still get presents!" What a relief. I also felt better knowing that I was able to give my baby the gift of security and calmness. Abby got a restful night's sleep and we had a great Christmas.
In John 8: 31-32, the Bible says, "If you hold to my teaching, you are really my disciples. 32Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free." There are so many areas where I long for truth in my life. How comforting to know that there is an answer. If I hold to the teachings of Christ and live as His disciple. I will know the truth and be set free! That is my wish for myself and all of those I know and love this new year. Know the truth . . . and be set free!
